Pastor Christ says, “Treat your wife as your first daughter more than your mate.”
Man of God Pastor Chris Oyakhilome of Christ Embassy Church and president of LoveWorld Incorporated has been teaching and pastoring since the establishment of his ministry in the year of 1989. Though LoveWorld Incorporated and Christ Embassy originated in Lagos, Nigeria, Pastor Chris is now reaching millions of people all around the globe with the message of salvation and the truth of the Gospel. He has delivered countless inspiring messages of hope and healing to his followers, while teaching how to live your life empowered by God.
The New Testament often paints an analogy or parable to explain a phenomenon or describe a relationship. This is seen in scripture at times to paint a picture of warning for us to understand how something should not be, while also instructing the right way something should go, according to the standard of the Lord. Pastor Chris has a unique way of connecting the Word of God to the here and now, rather than leaving it to belong only in the past.
22 Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
A very important passage of scripture is found in Ephesians chapter 5 and describes the Christ-centered relationship meant to be experienced and lived out between a man and his wife. How are we truly meant to understand this relationship and why is it so important to God that we do?
Well, the scripture tells us exactly why! Christ gave himself for the church out of great love for her and desire to be with her; to bring people back to God through Himself. In the same way, God shows us that husbands are to love their wife with the same reverence and devotion as Christ loves the church.
We so often confuse the role of husband and of wife in trying to make it neutrally sensitive and empowering. Pastor Chris believes the men have not been treating their wives in the way that the Bible shows us through parables and truth.
The passage in Ephesians teaches that men are to love their wives as they do their own bodies. Husbands are instructed to nourish and cherish their wives, just as the Lord Jesus Christ does for us, His beloved Church.
Without Christ, there is no need or possibility for a church. And without a head, it is not necessary to have a body. In these ways, we can understand the importance of this relationship between a man and a wife, sharing in different parts of one union.
It is not natural for us to treat others as we would treat ourselves, though this is what the Word of God tells us. We can always strive to treat others this way but are we even aware of our own self treatment, truly?
Can a man love his neighbor and despise himself? Verse twenty-nine refers to the reality that no man who despises himself, could love his own flesh. Only when we think this way, do we grasp the true meaning behind Pastor Chris’ words and encouragement to love our spouse with the unconditional love a parent has for their first born child.
Pastor Chris Says…
The esteemed Pastor Chris once said, “Treat your wife as your first born more than your mate”. By this he refers to the most intentional and life-giving relationship in the family. The job as a parent to their first child is to encourage them and raise them up, while being the rock they can always lean on.
The relationship Pastor Chris highlights is one that is covered in grace and understanding of the other, as a parent embraces their child, even in their shortcomings and failures. This is what the scriptures are portraying. A blameless church is seen by and through Christ, as a perfect bride is seen through her bridegroom’s eyes.
“If you take her as your mate, you will be offended at the things she does because you expect more from her. If you take her as you take your daughter, you will be gracious and overlook all the non-sense …. But at least, since the non-sense is coming from your daughter, it’s not too bad.”
“If you want the Gospel to produce results in your life, this is what you have to do. You have to put the Word to work in your family.”